Day 110: Curb your enthusiasm

Having 1093 days to plan a wedding might seem like an absolute dream to most people.

3 days short of 3 years to plan a huge party! Bliss right?

Short answer, not really.

I love being engaged, the past 110 days have been incredible. Mine and James’ relationship has grown so much, even in this short space of time. But really, the reason we got engaged was not to spend 3 years planning – we want to get married!

Before we got engaged, we talked about ‘when we get married’, and actually bickered about how quickly we should get married – I was of the opinion that 18 months was a perfect time scale, whereas James saw the year mark as the best.

But life doesn’t work out like that. James is a medical student, and I am a poor graduate. Both of us would like to be financially independent when we tie the knot, and that means paying for his university fees. So, life gets in the way and that 12 – 18 months has become 36 months.

Of course, that doesn’t stop me from being the most enthusiastic bride-to-be in the world. We’ve had a lot of “ooh you’re very organised aren’t you” from friends and suppliers that we’ve contacted, and it’s taking all of my strength to not just buy everything now and sit on it for 983 days.

As it happens, I wanted to know exactly when I was going to become a Mrs, and so we have actually booked three things: our church, our reception venue, and our photographer.

These are the three most important things in the marriage world to me: being joined together before God for life, being able to have a private space to celebrate with my family and friends, and to have the memories to look back over. Everything else is just detail – even if I got married in a bin bag with a pumpkin motif on the back, I wouldn’t look very good, but I would still be married… that said, I won’t be getting married in a bin bag.

Not me!

Especially if it had a pumpkin on the back.

So, my most important things are booked. And now, here I sit, looking on beautiful websites like Love my Dress and Rock My Wedding, yearning and Pinning like crazy.

We both desperately want to get married, and we will, but sometimes, you just have to curb your enthusiasm.

Day 100: Who are we?

James and I were very young when we met – I was 16, and he was 19. A mutual friend introduced us at a music festival, and we just instantly hit it off.

I’d just finished my GCSEs, and James was about to start his course in biomedical sciences at university. So, after three months, he went 100 miles south and for the first two years of being together, we were almost permanently long distance.

In 2011, I (completely by fluke) moved to the same city to start my own university course, and so started two years of practically living in each other’s pockets. It could have been make or break, but it was so refreshing to just be able to go and see him whenever I wanted!

It was when I went to university that I finally started to take God seriously. I went along to St Thomas Crookes in Sheffield, completely unsure of what I even believed anymore. I instantly loved it and have not looked back – if you’re ever in the Steel City, check them out!

One week, I had no one to go to church with – so I took along my unwilling boyfriend (I’d taken him along to so many churches that he hated!) one evening, and he too, has never looked back.

Fast forward two years, we’ve both left university, we’ve both (for that reason) left St Thomas Crookes, and are now in a slightly quieter church in our home town! We got engaged on Bamburgh beach, on a sunny July evening, after a picnic and patisseries.

Since then, despite having 1093 days, it has been a whirlwind of activity. We’ve booked our church and venue, and our lovely photographer Sarah-Jane Ethan (#keen!).

We have 993 days to go, and I can’t wait to share this journey with whoever stumbles upon our journey. I want to struggle, laugh and plan on this blog, and be able to write down anything – I’m sorry if I bore you!

It’s day 100, and I am content. What am I expecting from this journey? To see God grow in our relationship, to see our relationship grow even more, and to have the best wedding in the whole world, even if it’s only the best in my little world.

Hello!

My name is Emily, and on 25th July 2014, I got engaged to this wonderful man after 5 years together:

As well as looking far too young for our age, we both love God and are passionate about seeing Jesus known in our age group.

I’m writing this blog for the remainder of the 1093 days we will have been engaged by the time we get married in July 2017. I’m hoping that I will be able to share my thoughts on engagement and the struggles we face as we prepare for married life as a Christian couple.

This is day 97, here I start.